Busting the 3 Myths about Mirrors in the Bedroom

Feng Shui mirror placement is one of the most controversial and misunderstood topics in Feng Shui, particularly when it comes to mirrors in the bedroom.

Today, you'll gain more clarity on this issues as I share with you the 3 Common Myths on bedroom mirrors and the reality behind the myths, so that you can make the choices that are right for you and your family.

I'll also share My 3 Top Tips on what to consider when purchasing bedroom mirrors and my Final 5 that will help you in arranging your mirrors for the best results.

Before we get into the myths, lets define what we mean by 'a mirror facing the bed'. As you can see from the image below, the mirrors are directly in front of the bed, so facing the headboard of the bed. The mirrors in question could be mirrored wardrobes, freestanding, wall mounted or attached to a dresser, which is common in modern-day bedroom furniture.  

So now that we are clear on placement let's explore the myths.

Myth #1: Attracts a third party to the relationship

Mirrors across from the bed are believed to attract infidelity. However from the evidence I've seen, it's not so clear cut. I've known couples to be 100% faithful to one another even though they've slept with mirrors across from their bed and I've known of couples with mirror across from the bed and infidelity has occurred. I've also known couples with no mirror in the bedroom where an affair has taken place and conversely no mirror and no affair. So, I don't see solid enough evidence to say conclusively that a mirror across from the bed results in infidelity.  

Myth #2: You startle yourself

Some Feng Shui enthusiasts believe that you could startle yourself if you awaken to your reflection during the night. And yes there is validity to this argument however given you know that the mirror is there, I think it's less likely to be an issue. From an evidence view point, I've been to many homes with mirrors across from the bed and none of the occupants have ever mentioned being startled by their reflection in the mirror.

Myth #3: Issues with your soul at night 

This may sound far out to some of you so just bear with me. Some people believe that as we sleep, we transcend the physical plane and having a mirror across from the bed might startle our soul as it leaves our body or may confuse our returning soul. Again I haven't heard clients mention this issue however if the person in the bed is very elderly or very sick, I would perhaps consider moving the mirror.

If you're having nightmares on a regular occurrence perhaps moving the mirror may help with that particular issue.

So now that we've busted the myths, you might be asking yourself......"What's the real reason that a mirror might not be good for the bedroom?"

To answer this questions, let's think about the functionality of the bedroom. Our bedroom is a place we mainly use for sleeping and so it's a great idea to arrange our bedrooms in such a way that the ambiance encourages us to drift into a restful nights sleep. This is especially important because Sleep Science has proved that as we sleep, our body carries out a number of very important functions to help with our health and wellbeing. These functions range from memory consolidation (remembering) through to muscle and tissue repair through to prevention of serious health problems. 

So the question is, how can a mirror/mirrors in the bedroom prevent sleep and cause these poor health and wellbeing issues? 

The answer is activity. One of the many great functions of a mirror is to activate the space in which it is placed, which means the mirror increases the Chi (energy) within that space. This is great for the functionality of some rooms in your home for example a children's playroom. However if you're goal is to achieve a restful nights sleep, the last thing you want is lots of active energy bouncing around the room keeping you awake. Now I'm not saying that if you have a mirror across from your bed that you need to immediately get rid of it. In Feng Shui, 99.9% of issues can be rectified by a cure. But before we discuss possible cures, let me ask you: "How is your sleep?" This is a key question I ask ALL of my clients without fail.

Many Feng Shui enthusiasts fail to ask this question and go straight into "the bedroom mirror CURE" of reposition the mirror or even removing it from the bedroom altogether. This would't be my first response so if you have a mirror across from your bed, you can breathe. My first response would be asking you some questions related to the quality of your sleep (and your partner if applicable): "What's the quality of your sleep on a scale of 1-10?", "How many hours do you sleep each night?", "How long does it take you to fall asleep?", "Do you awaken during the night and if you do, how long does it take for you to fall back asleep?" and "Do you feel refreshed when you awaken in the morning?". If you (and your partner) sleep like a log and feel great in the morning then feel free to leave the mirror as is. If you have a regular sleep routine and you're getting the recommended 7-9 hours sleep a night, falling asleep within 15 minutes of going to bed, sleeping through the night and awaking refreshed; then keep the mirror in place if you like. 

If on the other hand you have a mirror across from your bed and you don't sleep well (or your partner doesn't), then don't worry; I have some Feng Shui recommendations for you:

#1 - Place a covering of some sort over the mirror during the night to quieten down the mirrors activity and see how your sleep patterns respond. Some people even get little curtains made for their mirror that are open during the day and closed at night. If covering the mirror helps then perhaps consider a more permanent solutions like #2 or #3 below.

#2 - Reposition the mirror so that it's on another wall/area of the bedroom.

#3 - Remove the mirror from the bedroom altogether. Perhaps sell it or reposition the mirror to a more appropriate room within your home. If your mirror is a part of a dresser, you can normally unscrew the mirror part and that what we did with our dresser.

Now let's move onto My Top 3 Tips for Mirrors in the Bedroom

1. Choose a large clear mirror. Mirrors that are fragmented like the mirror below look modern but they distort your image and the image of whatever they are reflecting. This can translate into negative self-esteem, lack of confidence, insecurity, negative feelings or self talk about yourself, fractured relationships and lack of connection to your environment. This type of mirror can also create procrastination and you may feel a bit lost.

2. Antique mirrors that are bevelled throughout, unclear or foggy face the same issues as fragmented mirrors above. My recommendation would always be to select a big clear mirror.

3. Position the mirror in the best possible place. By this I mean, place the mirror so that you (and your partner) can clearly see your head, hair and shoulders as a minimum. If when you look in the mirror your head is partly or fully cut off then self-worth and self-image problems can develop. In addition postural problems can be the result of bending or stretching to see yourself properly. Typically you and your partner won't be the same height so throughout your home, I recommend placing mirror where you can both see your head, hair and shoulders fully or your full body can be well seen if the mirror is full length. If you can't, I'd urge you to consider acquiring a larger mirror, it's well worth it.

My Final 5 Mirror Placement Recommendations

#1. If you are blessed with a great view outside your bedroom window then placing a mirror to reflect that fantastic view creates wonderful Chi.

#2. With a small or dark bedroom, an appropriately placed mirror can make the space feel bigger and brighter.

#3. Where you can't see the bedroom door from the bed and there is no other position for the bed to be placed, you may wish to consider putting a mirror so that from the bed, you can see the reflection of the door and therefore who is entering the bedroom.

#4. Position the mirror on one of the walls at the side of the bed rather than across from the bed or behind the bed. The one addition I would make here though is, avoiding the placement of the mirror at head position of either side of the bed as this could startle you and/or cause sleep disruptions.

#5. Finally, placing mirrors inside closet doors or in a walk-in wardrobe is a great idea.

Remember that 1-5 is only applicable provided that such a positioning would not result in the bed being directly across from the mirror.

I hope you found this article helpful. I love to hear your feedback so please feel free to comment or forward your questions; I'd be honoured to help you (email: [email protected]). If you like this blog and want more Powerful Feng Shui Goodies to Transform Your Home, Business and Life, join our wonderful Facebook Community by clicking here.

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